What Ruins A Good Love Story?

If we’re honest, most of us relish a good love story. Not necessarily the cliche chick flick kind, but a narrative in which the riskiness of relationship is explored. Author Jonathan Gottschall says, “Story is where people go to practice the key skills of human social life.” If this is true, then love stories help us determine the kind of romance we would like to personally experience.

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I posed this question to my friends on Facebook, and the replies were varied, but fit into a few main categories: internal flaws, external actions, and semi-fictional creatures.

What Ruins A Good Love Story?

  1. Vampires.
  2. Life.
  3. Knowing an awkward moment will happen and they dramatically break up knowing that sooner or later they will get back together…the WORST.
  4. Video Games.
  5. Self.
  6. Ambivalence.
  7. Dishonesty. Non-transparency. Etc.
  8. Cannibalistic significant others…and herpes. Always herpes.
  9. Sin. Boom! Jesus juke!
  10. Doubt. Oh, and the author.
  11. Infidelity.
  12. Disrespect.
  13. No grace.
  14. Pride.
  15. I don’t know much about romantic love, but I imagine an addiction to infatuation would do it. Jumping around to a different relationship every time that stage is over. “Like everything which is not the involuntary result of fleeting emotion but the creation of time and will, any marriage, happy or unhappy, is infinitely more interesting than any romance, however passionate.” – W.H. Auden  ||  Retort from another commenter: W.H. Auden was a depressed drug addict. So there. I hope my comment is taken in a non-serious tone, like it’d sound were I saying it in person.

Internal Flaws and External Actions

I can see how both internal flaws and external actions can ruin a good love story.

Personality issues inevitably erupt in personal relationships. Internal flaws have a way of making their presence known, likely because an individual’s ego is under attack in a healthy, mutually serving relationship.

Certain actions (or lack of certain actions) cause great distress in relationships. With each party carrying a set of behavioral expectations of the other in the relationship, hopes are bound to be crushed. In a healthy relationship, respectful and frequent communication would address these unspoken expectations and realistically negotiate the reasons for specific external behaviors.


What do you think ruins a good love story?



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