How To Avoid Ever Saying Goodbye

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It’s been said that life is a series of hellos and goodbyes (thanks, Billy Joel and Morrissey).

Everyone likes hellos. It means seeing the people we love, the family we’ve grown up with, and greeting the friends we’ve chosen to spend time with. Hello means we get to interact with the things and people we enjoy.

Goodbyes, however, are different. Goodbyes mean an end of something, the closing of a season, or the conclusion of a relationship. Goodbye exists because some things just don’t work out, or there’s never any closure once something has come to the point of finishing.

If you never want to have to say goodbye, to be sad to leave someone or something, there are ways to avoid it. You can keep on saying hello to people and experiences and greet the same aspects of your life over and over, without having to admit that everything has a beginning and an end.

How To Avoid Ever Saying Goodbye

Never take risks. Risk means there’s a chance of failure, but it also means there’s chance of success. If you risk something (time, relationships, money, etc), you might realize a better way to live meaningfully with more of one thing and less of another. And that would mean saying goodbye to your previous way of doing things.

Hold on to what is comfortable. Never do something that scares you or may cause you to become dissatisfied with staying where you are for the rest of your life. If you never change your surroundings, you’ll never have to say goodbye.

Play it safe with your career. Don’t ever try to work harder and improve your productivity because you might have to say goodbye to one department to move up the ladder. Or you’ll have to find a more challenging job elsewhere. Just keep your head down and be average.

Start something but don’t intend to finish it. If you just let something trail on and on, ignoring or forgetting it, you’ll never have to say goodbye (even if, for all intents and purposes, it’s done anyway).

Never say hello to something new in the first place, then you’ll never, ever have to say goodbye.


Do you have a story to share about when you had to say goodbye to something or someone? How did it change you?


Read more about transitions, change, relationships, and conflict — all themes appearing in my new book.

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