7 Reasons To Abandon Your New Year’s Resolutions


Last year is fading in the rearview mirror and a new one is unfolding before us.

The New Year has always been celebrated because it’s an opportunity for all of us to make good on the unfulfilled promises of our years gone by. No more postponing, no more empty commitments.

But when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions, are they really what we need to change our lives? You’ve probably already broken some and given up on others. It’s not because you don’t want to make some changes, but it’s just not convenient. Or easy. Or fun. Or realistic. Very few things change our lives overnight, so is it worth trying?

7 Reasons To Abandon Your New Year’s Resolutions

There are plenty of reasons to call off your New Year’s Resolutions. Here are 7:

1. You gave yourself too much to do in too little time.

You can try losing 50 pounds in a month, but your body might suffer unintended consequences. No one can read 150 books a year (unless you’re Claire Diaz-Ortiz), but you can start with 10. You can use small steps of progress instead of giant leaps that aren’t even feasible.

2. You made Resolutions because everyone else did.

There’s lots of peer pressure when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions. Everybody makes them, and it’s hip to be all about self-improvement. But when asked at years-end parties, did you really mean what you said about goals for last year? Don’t follow other people’s lead. Make changes you know are right for you, not just crowd-pleasers.

3. Exercise regiments will kill your social life.

This is the time of year when many of us say goodbye to our friends for a couple months, as they try to keep their commitment of daily workouts. But in the process, they lose touch with friends and family because their time and energy are consumed by early morning exercises and early bedtimes.

4. Value people over accomplishments.

Choose to spend your energy in the New Year on sustaining healthy friendships and building new ones. Don’t worry about starting a blog, or starting a business, or whatever big goal you think sounds good. Want to make a real impact in someone’s life? Don’t offer a product; offer yourself in friendship.

5. Choose experiences instead of wealth.

Money disappears eventually. Things wear out and become a pile of useless trash. Ditch your resolution of gaining more possessions or climbing up another tax bracket, and just live your life. Experiences and memories can never be taken from you.

6. You haven’t dreamed up your best goals yet.

A long year just finished, and you’re still exhausted from a busy Christmas, New Year’s parties, and returning to work. How can you be thinking at your best level if your brain’s had no time to rest, reflect, and dream about what really matters? Maybe you’ll realize what you should really strive for in the New Year once you’ve had some time to recharge and refocus.

7. Resolutions are doomed for failure.

Anyone can make a bold self-betterment proclamation under the dazzling lights and unabashed cheer of a New Year’s Eve party. What matters isn’t just the intention, but the follow-through. Let’s be honest, no one asks their friends how their resolutions are holding up in March. Real changes happen when we do the work, day by day, not set lofty goals with no real accountability.


Did you set any New Year’s Resolutions? Which ones will you abandon so you can live better now instead of waiting to fulfill an obligation?



One response to “7 Reasons To Abandon Your New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Yes, John, but what goals in life are easy, convenient, and just fall into your lap? Some things are worth sacrifices even when that is time with valued people in your life. And goals are not a bad thing. After all, without vision people perish right? Some people just call goals resolutions and there’s nothing wrong with a good old fashioned goal, yeah?

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